Debarkation is hell. The party is actually over the day before you leave the ship. It's like they can't wait to get you off. The Caper the day before is all about debarkation. They host seminars on debarkation. It's like... Hey, I'm still on vacation time. Leave me alone. The biggest pain comes when you have to leave your bags out in the hall the night before. It's mayhem!
As far as lunches go... make sure you eat lunch in the dining room too. Not just breakfast. There are always delicious selections to choose from.
There is a need for the debarkation briefings - rules can change and then there are also many newbies aboard who have never gone through debarkation before. There really is no other time to do this besides the last day of the cruise.
Mayhem is too strong a word. I've been through both the quick & easy and the crazy and disorganized debarkations, and it really has to do with people doing what they're supposed to when they're supposed to. I like the more leisurely approach. Let them send your luggage to the terminal, enjoy a nice breakfast and let everyone else rush off of the ship.
As far as feeling like they can't wait to get you off the ship, I've never felt that way. The talks are necessary and they answer a lot of questions people have about going home. I honestly think cruising is what you make of it. You can make the small things big or you can choose to enjoy your whole time on board
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