macmom11- I wasn't intending to be "jumping on you" .. You viewpoint is perfectly valid and its your money, you can do what you wish. I was only trying to point out that tipping is not a mandatory thing for cruising for those that didn't know. The subject of tipping always seems to turn into a heated discussion as there are always many views on the subject. So let's not turn this discussion into a tipping topic.
But I would like to point out that Timc did the correct thing by leaving comments on why he reduced the tips. Otherwise the wait staff would not learn from their mistakes or be able to do a better job next time. the comment cards are absolutely used by Carnival. If there is something that did not go correctly on your cruise you need to let them know.
Timc did exactly as he was supposed to do. My wife was aghast when I reduced the tips on a recent cruise. I didn't actually reduce the amount that I tipped. I simply did a little reallocation of the overall amount to show extra gratitude to those who deserved a little more for their incredible efforts. People are scared into thinking that they will offend someone for tipping less than "appropriate". Somewhere we became a society where service people feel they are entitled to a certain gratuity even if they offer lackluster service. I have been known to tip good waitstaff 25-30% for a great dining experience. Conversely, I have also been known to just leave a negative comment card and follow it up with a call to management. Many people do this to try to score a free meal so, when a comped meal is offered, I turn it down. They take my comment more seriously at that point. Never feel obligated to reward negative service. When they see that their attitude is costing them a lot of money, they will either quit or bring their efforts up to par.
Verbal or written feedback is vital when things don't meet your expectations. As has been noted, how will they know if you don't tell them? Just cutting their tips with no explanation will drive them to simply think you were a cheapskate.
Turning down offers to comp the meal is a good idea.
Okay, now I am wondering what ship it is also! I have to say I love country music if it is good!
As far as the tipping thing, your all right... it is your choice
I'm leaving this weekend on the Victory, I'll let you all know if they play country and how the food is! I intend to just make the best of it, it has to be nicer than being in 30 degree weather! Probably better than my cooking too.
You're so right, macmom111, if I'm not cooking, serving, and cleaning the kitchen afterwards, it's all good I'm wondering why judybennett didn't ask to be moved to another table. Why not talk to the head waiter or the maitre d' and ask to get switched to a friendlier wait staff's area. The food we had on the Holiday last year was good to me. I had no complaints and always found something yummy. Especially the chocolate melting cake