Welcome to Cruise Chat Mike!
Well the easy question to answer in your post is which Station in Rome is best- Rome Termini. There are also many good hotels within a couple o city blocks of the station. I can't be certain for the train station in Naples. There is a train station that we used to go to Pompeii and it did look like it was a big station, but I was not trying to travel to Rome from it so I never looked. IF that is the correct station (See our "Train Travel in Italy" post at the topic of this section of cruise chat" then is is only about 1/2 mile from the port (probably would be best to grab a taxi if you have a lot of luggage.)
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